A few years ago I learned that electronics, like TVs, use electricity while turned off in order to power on more quickly. Once I realized that source of wasted electricity, I bought power strips and I turn the strips off when appliances aren’t in use.
The other night I forgot to turn off the TV power strip before bed. I discovered this the next morning when I put an exercise video into the DVD player and the player’s display was on. I had a moment when I found myself going down the road of self-criticism, despite my new year’s commitment not to do that!
The good news is, I heard the voice in my head start yammering about how wasteful that was, and how could I have forgotten etc. When I heard the voice, I stopped and thought “I could criticize myself or I could use this slip up as a reminder to turn off the power strip next time.”
Unfortunately, that self-critical voice was well-practiced for many years. I’m always grateful for those moments of awareness when I realize that critical voice is softer and less frequent yet still requires a certain amount of diligent monitoring.
Author and speaker Karen Ruth White addresses this penchant of women to criticize themselves. She sells a toy self-flagellation device (photo below) at her talks as a reminder not to be unkind to ourselves.
I leave that toy in my office as an amusing reminder that beating myself up over anything is a waste of time. All I need to do is learn the lesson in any situation and move on.
How do you remember to be kind to yourself when you’ve fallen short of your expectations?